Panos Tsagaris, “The Kiss”
Being “single” much like not wearing a ring on your finger seems to mean fair game to a lot of people when that is not always the case. Finding myself responding more and more with the status of “unavailable”. Whether this is due to seeing someone seriously, casually, or no one at all is really not what is in question. If a woman answers this inquiry in such a manner a gentleman should recognize she is discreetly but honestly saying she isn’t interested. She shouldn’t have to pretend she is in a relationship to comfortably coexist in an environment with men, but that’s just my two cents.
Yes, it certainly has at times, but it is not always the primary path. Coitus can become a road toward self-actualization and enlightenment. And if you’re brave enough it can even heal past abuse. Faith in oneself and one’s partner(s), and a willingness to be open to new experience, are the foundation for everything else. Start here and you will be heading in the right direction.
As for “interested” people, it’s of course flattering, but rare I find myself drawn toward someone in this manner. I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing though. Sexuality can be a means of connection and discovery, but it never dictates my course of action. This has actually been a point of contention for me in how otherwise fascinating men and women operate. There has to be a compatible friendship before anything else and it’s a bit disheartening when people too quickly drop worthwhile connections because their physical urges haven’t been satisfied. It is one thing to be upfront about what one is looking for and I can definitely respect that, but people usually masquerade behind convoluted courtship rituals instead of speaking their mind.
Erik Ravelo, Lana Sutra: Union of the Antelope
Erik Ravelo, Lana Sutra: Suspended Union
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