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Yes, it certainly has at times, but it is not always the primary path. Coitus can become a road toward self-actualization and enlightenment. And if you’re brave enough it can even heal past abuse. Faith in oneself and one’s partner(s), and a willingness to be open to new experience, are the foundation for everything else. Start here and you will be heading in the right direction.

As for “interested” people, it’s of course flattering, but rare I find myself drawn toward someone in this manner. I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing though. Sexuality can be a means of connection and discovery, but it never dictates my course of action. This has actually been a point of contention for me in how otherwise fascinating men and women operate. There has to be a compatible friendship before anything else and it’s a bit disheartening when people too quickly drop worthwhile connections because their physical urges haven’t been satisfied. It is one thing to be upfront about what one is looking for and I can definitely respect that, but people usually masquerade behind convoluted courtship rituals instead of speaking their mind.