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jennaddenda answered your question: At what point does one become concerned

In what way concerned? For instance, does it make you feel “conspicuously single?” Or concerned for the people asking?

Perhaps “concerned” wasn’t the best word to employ, as I find it an amusing reflection. At what point does one realize there is intellectual food for thought on human behavior when they notice a pattern? As I suggested, I believe the trend has significant roots in gender perception. In my particular case, I’ve been interacting with many people I either have recently met or have not communicated with in quite some time. Such people wouldn’t be immediately familiar with my tendency to arrive and leave events on my own with the occasional exception of a group of friends. I’m rarely if ever seen leaving with a man. Without fail, on the occasions I have been out with a male friend, there are always those who cannot resist asking if I am dating that person even though there is no body language or other evidence to imply so.

Now, remove me by name and association from this example and what are we left with? An independent female who comes and goes on her time alone or in a group dynamic. In review of people’s responses, what might compel their questioning? I believe females would be much more likely to encounter such inquiries because they less frequently attend social events solo in comparison to males. The example doesn’t neatly fit into this gender stereotype. We could definitely expound upon this to include other factors like race, age, appearance, etc.

The premise of my writing is fueled by analytic study that frames those “Hmm…” moments. Nothing more, nothing less.

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  1. conjuredryad said: I think people are just damn nosey. Also, unlike Anon, I appreciate that you have a vocabulary larger than 100 words. Your blog is one of my favs, keep it up!
  2. jennaddenda said: Ah, I see what you mean now. I’d be interested to see what a cross-section of independent peeps who come and go in the same manner experience. I think that would help you extrapolate the pattern into something meaningful.
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